How to : How to Restart a Conversation with a Girl

• “What was the name of the song you said you liked? Going to check it out rn.”
• “Tell me more about your coffee obsession. Where’s the best cafe in town?”
• “I was just thinking about what you said last night… How’d you learn so much about that?”

• “Would you rather stay home in your PJs or dress up and go out on a Friday night?”
• “If you could get dinner with any 4 famous people, who would you pick?”
• “What’s your dream vacation destination?”

• Try bringing up a common experience or quirk to see if she can relate. You can use a line like, “Please tell me I’m not the only one who listens to songs on repeat” to start a lively debate.
• Talk about a hobby you both enjoy in your free time. For example, “Have you checked out the kickboxing studio downtown yet?”
• If you know each other IRL, mention something you have in common like a shared class or favorite restaurant. For example, “How’re you feeling about the final coming up in Dr. Joan’s class?”

• See if she’ll help you pick a great place to eat with a text like, “Can you help me out? Pretend you’re a food blogger. Where should I go to get the best brunch around here?”
• Get her thoughts on pop culture with something like, “Just finished the season finale of that show you recommended. Can you believe they killed off Margo?”
• Send photos of 2 outfits and ask her to help you pick which one to wear with a playful text like, “It’s up to you. Which one should I wear to class tomorrow?”

Humor is the way to go here, since keeping things lighthearted will set up a positive vibe for your conversation.

• “You won’t believe who I just ran into…”
• “Just saw the weirdest thing outside!”
• “Guess what I just overheard 😂”
• “Have I told you about the time I…”

• Send emojis that summarize a fun first date with a text like, “Guess what I’m thinking about? Here’s a hint 🎥🍿😊✨”
• Get a little sassy with a message like, “👻👻👻👻👻 If I send you a bunch of ghosts, is that considered ghosting?”
• Ask her to guess how you spent your evening and give an emoji clue like, “💰🦹‍♂️💥👊🦸.”

Or, if she has a specific sense of humor and you know her well, go for a weirder message.

• For a cute approach, pair a sweet GIF or photo with the message, “This reminded me of you.”
• For a funny approach, pair a GIF of a random animal with the message, “Scale of 1 to 10, how much do you think this looks like me?”
• When in doubt, send a funny meme and just ask, “Have you seen this one? 🤣”

Not to mention, a flirty compliment is a great way to test the waters. If you’re able to restart your conversation with a cute compliment, she’s probably into you. In fact, it’s a great sign if she responds right away or faster than usual. However, if she doesn’t respond, it might be time to move on, and it’s her loss.

• Send a blank-looking message like “…” Then send, “You’re so beautiful, I forgot what I was going to text.”
• “I’m sure you get this all the time, but you have gorgeous eyes.”
• “If you were a vegetable, you’d be a ‘cute-cumber.’”^[10]

• For a less intense approach, try something like, “My dog misses you” or “I miss our post-game recaps. Did you see the game tonight?”
• For a more intense approach, try a line like, “Missing you a little more than usual today.”
• For a super flirty, confident approach, try “Miss me yet?”^[12]

Be careful with sarcasm that’s a little too harsh. Since it’s hard to interpret tone over text, lean towards the humorous, playful side. That way, she won’t think you’re being rude.

• “You are the world’s fastest texter 🐌😂.”
• “This is me waiting for your next message 👀.” You can soften this comment by sending another message like “It’s worth it, though!”
• To get really meta, send the song “Don’t You (Forget About Me).”

• “Do you want to hang out sometime? I’m free Saturday afternoon!”
• “You + me + ice cream tomorrow night?”
• “Hey! Want to grab drinks with me on Friday?”

The good news is, you’ll eventually find someone else who’ll be thrilled to get a text from you!