You probably talked to her a little bit when you got her number. Whether you chatted online or in person, you can continue your conversation wherever you left off. It’s an easy way to keep a conversation going, and you already know she likes talking about the subject! Say something like:^[2]

Long-winded text messages can be overwhelming. As you two chat, keep your messages down to one or two lines at most. Don’t send paragraphs, and try not to text her more than once in a row without a reply. You want to keep her attention, but you also don’t want to make her read a novel when she opens her phone.

Keep a conversation going with open-ended questions. These are ones that she can’t just answer with “yes” or “no.” As she answers, you can also give your own answers so you’re both sharing a little bit about yourselves. Try questions like:^[3]

Try to compliment something other than her appearance. You might tell her that she’s fun to talk to, that you love getting to know her, or that she seems really cool. Most girls are flattered by compliments, and she might even give you one in return! Say something like:^[4]

Maybe you two watch the same show or do the same hobby. Whatever it is, you can ask her about it to keep a fun conversation going. Plus, you’ll get to know a little bit about her in the process! If you aren’t sure what you guys have in common yet, try looking her up on social media to get an idea of what she likes to do. Say something like:^[5]

It’s an easy way to show you value her opinion. If she’s lived in the area longer than you have, maybe you can ask her for a nice restaurant nearby. Or, if she loves to read, you could ask her if she has any book recommendations for you. Say something like:^[6]

That way, you can both get to know each other. As you two text back and forth, open up to her and answer any questions she has. She’ll probably feel more comfortable about meeting up with you, too, if that’s your end goal.

• An easy way to share things is to talk about yourself, then ask her a similar question.
• For instance, you might say, “I grew up in Houston, but I moved to Austin when I was 18. Where’d you grow up?”
• Or, “I’m not a huge fan of baseball, but I love basketball. Do you watch any sports?”

If you like her, make your intentions known. Texting is fine, but hanging out IRL is the best way to get to know a girl. Ask her if she has time in her schedule to grab dinner or go get coffee. Don’t wait too long to ask her out, or she might think you aren’t interested. Say something like:^[7]